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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself!

I had the super-humbling honor of speaking at a SAHM’s brunch for a friend of mine’s church group today with another fellow blogger, the Gracious Green Woman.  It was so much fun, and I was so blessed by all those awesome women!  Shout out to Jennifer for inviting me.  I LOVED it!

I would love to share with you everything that I shared at the meeting, but I pretty much blogged it over the last few years.  I basically just shared the major milestone, stop-me-in-my-tracks types of things that God has taught me since becoming  a mom (and I know it’s only the tip of the iceberg). 

One of the things I shared, however, that I haven’t blogged about yet, is a wonderful little phrase (borrowed from my 12-stepper friends) that a mentor of mine always tells me, and that’s: “Stop shoulding all over yourself!”

So often as busy moms we feel guilty for not doing enough – whether it’s for God or for our families or whatever.  We constantly say, “I should be doing X more.” Or, “I know I should X, but…”

But here’s the deal…if you’re carrying a huge burden of guilt or shame or self-pity or whatever, then it’s not Jesus’.  His burden is easy and light, remember?  (

Matthew 11:30  “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

There is a wonderful book that I have recommended before called The Busy Mom’s Guide to Spiritual Survival, and in it she says the same thing. 

“We move beyond the guilt of ‘I know I should, but…’ to raw, authentic passion for God’s word.” – pg. 43

No more shoulding!!  Just let Jesus compel you toward Himself.  He’ll do it because He sure loves you a lot.  All you have to do is surrender. 

He knows you’re a mom, and He knows all that that entails.  Your relationship with Him is forever changed, and how great that is!  It’s new and exciting, and we have the awesome privilege of experiencing life with Him in a whole new way.  What a joy!


  1. Yesterday was AWESOME Annie & I have to thank you again for the honest & humorous deposit you made into our lives! You have an awesome gift that is and will continue to be a blessing to the body of Christ!

    1. You know, Jennifer, I really didn't think I'd enjoy that as much as I did! I guess Toastmasters all those years ago paid off. :-P I really would like to pursue speaking a little more.


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