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Thursday, July 1, 2010

Connecting

So swim lessons have kind of been taking over my life lately, which is totally fine because my boys are doing awesome in them.  But a two-week refresher course turned into 4 weeks and counting because my sweet little stubborn Levi is one of 2 of the hardest kids our instructor has ever taught.  It makes a mama proud.  ;)  I'm just so grateful for the instructor's perseverance.

However, since the lessons are at 11:00 Monday through Thursday and I have to leave my house at 10:30, I am left with no significant time to do anything social beforehand.  Tuckered out Levi then naps when we get home, leaving us at home until around 2:30 or so.  At that point most people (moms and kids, that is) are not really into hanging out so late in the day, so we usually just run an errand or two or hang out at home until Dad gets there.

As you can imagine, that leaves me feeling a bit disconnected from the outside world.  Whenever that happens I tend to turn to the computer for some outside "connection", but it never really does the trick.  I was talking to a good friend of mine (on the phone) about this today.  She was recalling how I gave up Facebook for a while, and that started us talking about the whole Facebook addiction.

In my opinion, people (myself included) get addicted to Facebook (or message boards, forums, etc.) when they just want to make meaningful connections with people.  But I don't think it's real.  To me it's like porn (or any other addiction).  You can look at it all you want, but it's never going to satisfy you like love will.  And virtual interactions don't satisfy me like face to face, sit-down-for-a-cup-of-coffee connections.  They just leave me frustrated and neurotically checking my email a hundred times a day.

Note: Blogging, by the way, is a product of my insomnia, not my addiction.  ;)

1 comment :

  1. I think this is SOO SOO true; and yet, it doesn't have to be true at all. I know because I often find myself on both sides of the "internet thing". For example, my best friend in the world right now is someone I have never met in person. A few years ago I would have thought that was crazy, but it feels perfectly natural to me now. We met through our blogs and just clicked instantly. I couldn't sleep last night because I was up weeping and praying for her. So, yeah, that's real friendship right there.

    I only leave my house for social reasons on Sundays, Wednesdays and every other Tuesday (I'm one of two Christian stay-at-home moms in my town), so phone and e-mail have been REAL forms of connection for me over the past few years.

    But, I've also felt the other side too, the kind you are talking about. It's much easier to hide our bruises, so to speak, on the internet and over the phone, and I think that's why the fake, surface, I-have-five-hundred-facebook-friends junk is so comfortable and so addictive. But, really, I've had in-person friendships that have turned out to be just as shallow. I think we just have to choose, constantly, if WE are going to be real or not. Usually, when people are being real, even on Facebook, real communication is possible.

    IMHO;)

    Sheesh...sorry for the novel! Awesome post...got me thinking:)

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